A ‘love language’ is the way others treat you that makes you feel most loved. It is also the way you prefer to show love. Children, too, express and receive love in different ways. There are, according to psychological and behavioural studies, five different love languages. This particular concept was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman and aims to create beautiful, healthy relationships with your children.
At Petit Love, of course, cuddles, gifts and happy words are non-negotiable! Give the below a read, and let us know which love language your little one speaks most:
Hugs, kisses, pats on the back and holding hands are all physical expressions of love. Your child’s love language is affectionate and will show love in the most obvious way. Physical play is also a way of meeting your child’s emotional needs.
Words of Affirmation
Gentle, heartfelt words nurture a sense of security within your child. They thrive on words of affection and endearment. Praise and encouragement, and phrases that suggest care and guidance will leave your child feeling loved and assured.
Being present and giving your child your undivided attention will make them feel like the most important person in the world. The activity is rarely important but doing the activity together, uninterrupted, is.
A hand written note, a freshly picked flower or a small gift are a tangible token of affection for your child. Yes, all children beg for things but, for those whose love language is receiving gifts, they see the gift as an extension of you and your love. They feel appreciated by the thoughtfulness of the gift.
Acts of Service
In the early stages of life, we do things for our children that they can’t do for themselves. As they get older, our love is expressed by rather teaching them how to do things for themselves.
It does not mean doing everything for them but rather easing the burden of responsibilities where you can. Helping with homework or fixing a bicycle wheel puncture are such examples of this love language.
How do I know what Love Language my child expresses?
- Observe how they express love to you.
- Observe how they express love to other people.
- What do they request most often?
- What do they complain about the most?
Though children receive love best from one language, there’s no doubt they benefit from all expressions of unconditional love.
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Gary Chapman, PhD, is the author of the bestselling The 5 Love Languages® series, which has sold more than 10 million worldwide and has been translated into 50 languages.